Saturday, February 23, 2013

Demographics.

A question some female readers in Seoul have been asking lately is...
 
...what kind of people you should date as you approach age 30 in South Korea...

 
This stuff is not so consuming...
 
...but if you are female and single and living in South Korea...
 
 
...every Korean and their mother will likely be getting all up in your private business...
 
...probably asking a lot of questions...
 
...and generally being quite pushy about it...
 
 
My thoughts on age are fairly liberal...
 
...but in Korea...
 
...there is a strict age/gender structure...
 
 
...so when people date in Korea...
 
...there generally should not be much of an age gap...
 
...and the male should generally be a year or so older than the female...
 
...although this may be changing...
 
...ever-so-slightly...
 
 
From a more practical point of view...
 
...outside of a rigid Korean dating context...
 
...a 30 year old woman could essentially date someone theoretically 10 years younger or 10 years older...
 
(...if you are dating a High School student and you are 30...I think that you are likely being inappropriate...) 
 
 
In Korea...
 
...as a 30 year old female (Korean age)...
 
...there are likely some problems that may arise when looking at these demographics...
 
 
Firstly...
 
...dating a 40 year old Korean man is likely impossible, as most are married
 
Dating Korean men in their late 30s is also tricky. 
 
Almost all are married.
 
 
Furthermore...
 
...most Korean men in this age bracket are broken people...
 
...at least in the physical sense...
 
 
 
...as their bodies have been crippled by excessive smoking, and work-related alcoholism...
 
...and insane salary man office hours with no holidays and very little exercise...
 
 
At the other end of the spectrum...
 
...Korean men in their early 20s...
 
(...more likely referred to as 'boys')...
 
 
... are usually stuck cleaning floors for 2 years during their compulsory Korean military service...
 
And prior to completing military service...
 
 
 
... these 'boys' are impressionable...
 
... smothered by their mothers...
 
... and have few interactions with women who are not their mother...
 
 
The men in the mid-range...
 
...who are around 30...
 
...are so stressed about getting married and getting a promotion...
 
 
...that I think it is probably not worth meeting them altogether...
 
...as they are likely more interested in securing a marital partner than having an actual date...
 
 
I'm clearly generalizing here...
 
...but I think...based on these generalizations...
 
...there may be some 'theoretical' options here...;
 
 
a) date older Korean divorcees
 
b) consider dating within the Russian/Chinese/Iranian communities in Seoul
 
c) date married Korean men, at the risk of being arrested (by law this is illegal in South Korea)
 
d) consider dating women, if your orientation is in the grey
 
e) import a boyfriend from Eastern Europe or China (although arranging a visa for him may prove tricky...)

1 comment:

  1. You forgot the central Asian men reservoir :D
    I love the conclusion, and completely agree with your whole analysis of the issue. D) and E) almost sound like the most rational answers hehe

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